Have you ever had to keep your mouth shut to keep the peace? It’s exhausting.

I know people had to do it with me when I was with someone who was going to ruin my life.

Luckily he dumped me. I look back at that time and remember how terrible I felt, but now I thank my lucky stars because he would’ve destroyed me.

Unfortunately there are relationships I’ve had to bear witness to that didn’t turn out the same way.

I’ve had to smile and bite my lip while witnessing the most toxic gaslighting I’ve ever known.

As much as I’m a big mouth, I knew I had to keep quiet because the person I loved was so deep in it that they couldn’t/wouldn’t acknowledge the things I had to say. I knew I’d no longer be allowed in their life.

The person they’re with is a MASTER at manipulation. Not good at anything else, but in that category, they’re an absolute pro.

The person I love was once vibrant and friendly. They loved their family, had tons of friends, and got along with others.

Now they’ve been beaten down to a shell of who they once were.

Now they have a problem with EVERYONE.

Now they fight with EVERYONE.

They never see fault in ANYTHING they do – it’s always someone else’s fault.

It’s because that’s how the gaslighting manipulator wants it. They know that if they can convince the person I love that the rest of the world is against them, they look like a hero and they keep control.

The gaslighter loses their job? Not their fault.

Loses 2nd job? Not their fault.

Loses 3rd job (and tells their spouse about it on their birthday so they literally cry over the cake while blowing out the candles)? Not their fault.

This goes on for about 4 more lost jobs.

I’ve NEVER seen the toxic gaslighter compliment the person I love, only mock and demean them and make them feel dumb.

The gaslighter goes through life trying to convince others that they are better than them, smarter than them, more talented than them, but if you scratch the surface (very lightly), you will see that everything they do is false.

The gaslighter I know blatantly plagiarizes others work by searching Facebook accounts and copying what other people write and posting it as their own.

All it takes is a quick google search and they’re busted. The only time I knew they actually wrote something themself was when the grammar or spelling was incorrect.

How pathetic. I actually can’t think of anything more pathetic, and yet, there is SO MUCH more shitty stuff about this person that almost matches it.

Like the lying. So much lying. So many things I know that I haven’t divulged because I wanted to keep the peace.

No wonder the person that beat my loved one down for so long is making others out to be the enemy – so they can be the only one they hear anymore – making themself out to be the hero and everyone else the enemy.

And they sure as shit have isolated themselves from ME because at this point they know I’ve got nothing to lose. They’re afraid I will say it all.

And guess what, buddy – you’re right. I will. I blame you for everything. So you keep up your nice-guy, innocent, routine for now because as the old saying goes.., karma’s a bitch, and so am I.