Think of any bully you’ve known in your life. At the root, they’re usually just sad inside and want to take their pain out on others.

The prime example of this is Nelson Muntz from the Simpsons. His dad went to the store for a pack of cigarettes and never came home. Because of Nelson’s unhappiness over being abandoned by his dad, he terrorizes the kids of Springfield, but oftentimes slips into sadness when thinking about his dad.

Hurt people hurt people.

I’m no babe in the woods. I’ve bullied people before. I hate that part of my life and regret it so much. But it did give me perspective.

The person who did that many moons ago was hurting. I wanted to be liked, and some people were easy targets to pick on for me to get the others to laugh.

I’d either do the bullying myself or join in with someone else. Sometimes I’d stand on the sidelines and watch silently as it was happening – which is just as bad as being an active participant.

Like I said, I regret it. But since I’m a glass-half-full kinda gal, I try to think of it as a life-lesson on how to treat others a little better.

In the end, I learned that the person you bullied is scarred for life (trust me, they remember), but it also taught me that your own memories might be worse.

YOU are now haunted with thoughts of how you could’ve done things differently. You could’ve saved someone instead of causing that pain. Your guilt scars probably run deeper than their painful ones.

President Trump’s senior advisor, Mercedes Schlapp, recently compared Joe Biden’s Town Hall meeting to an episode of Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood.

I get what she was trying to say – that our leader shouldn’t be soothing and kind and care about others; we need someone who is tough and loud and shows the world who’s boss. Sometimes that involves bullying, I guess.

The following are quotes from President Trump and Fred Rogers. After reading them, you can decide who’s the better man, both as a person, and who you’d rather run our country. Don’t fret, I tried to be fair. Trump’s quotes weren’t all, “Grab them by the pussy.” or “Duh, I didn’t knowww…” while you imagine him flailing his arms and making faces to mock a disabled reporter.

I even agree with some of his quotes.

See what you think:

It’s really easy to fall into the trap of believing that what we do is more important than what we are. Of course, it’s the opposite that’s true: What we are ultimately determines what we do!

You know the funny thing, I don’t get along with rich people. I get along with the middle class and the poor people better than I get along with the rich people.

All of us, at some time or other, need help. Whether we’re giving or receiving help, each one of us has something valuable to bring to this world.

I’ve always won, and I’m going to continue to win. And that’s the way it is.

Love and success, always in that order. It’s that simple AND that difficult.

The point is that you can’t be too greedy.

Real strength has to do with helping others.

Sometimes you need conflict in order to come up with a solution. Through weakness, oftentimes, you can’t make the right sort of settlement, so I’m aggressive, but I also get things done, and in the end, everybody likes me.

There’s a world of difference between insisting on someone’s doing something and establishing an atmosphere in which that person can grow into wanting to do it.

Money was never a big motivation for me, except as a way to keep score. The real excitement is playing the game.

You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are.

What separates the winners from the losers is how a person reacts to each new twist of fate.

Imagine what our real neighborhoods would be like if each of us offered, as a matter of course, just one kind word to another person.

In the end, you’re measured not by how much you undertake but by what you finally accomplish.

In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.

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I made it easy for myself and the quotes go as follows: Rogers, Trump, Rogers, Trump – down the whole list.

The point of this exercise was not to bash Trump, but to show that in Rogers’ quotes, there’s proof that a person can be strong and kind at the same time – which I believe would make for a better leader.

I always say that Biden wasn’t my first choice, but in comparing him with Trump, I’d rather have someone who is more like Fred Rogers than Nelson Muntz.